This is why I read; Stiltsville by Susanna Daniel

Stiltsville
2010
306 pages

This book spoke to me as a woman who loves being part of a family. Stiltsville refers to a community off the coast of Florida with small cottages built on stilts in the surrounding water.  It tells the story of Frances who as a young woman finds her true love during a chance meeting at his family’s stiltsville cabin.  It happens like that in just a moment, in an odd location, and in a blink of an eye you meet the person you will spend the rest of your life, for better or worse.  Through their courtship, marriage and the birth of their daughter, Margo, you see what family and friends brings to your life.  I laughed and cried at several memorable  moments that had to do with Margo’s adolescences and as Frances and Dennis struggle with the confines of marriage.

Margo is mature physically for a fourth grade student and at a school conference her teacher suggests to Frances and her husband, Dennis, that Margo might feel more comfortable skipping fifth grade and jumping right to sixth. Her parents go along with this idea and Margo finds herself in the midst of sixth grade serious drama, teasing and bullying.  She is invited to a popular girl’s sleepover where she leaves half way through the party because the girls have set her up in a most embarrassing way (mooning a group of boys) and laughing at her afterwards.  The incident was well-written and made me feel for poor Margo and her parents as they try to figure out how to help her through this new year.

I found this book filled with poignant moments like this that mirror my own life in some way.  I worry about my youngest daughter who is innocent and lacks the ability to see through the mean girls in her own fourth grade class.  I also loved the college Margo as she ventures forth to find her own path leaving her parents to explore their empty nest, which just leaves room for more worrying.  I loved the story of Stiltsville, Frances and Dennis, his parents and his sister, Bette, their set of friends, and Margo all make for a memorable story; one that I keep thinking about many days after finishing.

My handsome husband competed in his 11th marathon this past weekend and I was there to cheer him on.  I read and finished this book while I waited for him at various stops along the race route.  It was cold outside and I openly cried as I finished the last two chapters.

A quote:

This time she cried almost without sound.  We’d made a mistake in pushing her ahead-of this I was certain.  I’d let pride influence me.  Shamefully, though, I felt a little grateful for the mistake, because my daughter needed me, and I knew she wouldn’t need me in the same way for much longer.  Still , I couldn’t shake the image o Margo sitting in Mrs. Madansky’s class, raising her hand again and again.  (134)

There is a moment in the book where Dennis and Frances are talking about Margo and Peter, Margo’s new husband and Frances realizes that anything Dennis says to Margo seems to be understood but if Frances brings delicate subjects up somehow it is seen as her being critical of her daughter.  As I reader I noticed this throughout their relationship and it definitely reflects experiences my husband and I have had with our own daughters.  Somehow fathers have leeway with what they can express to their daughters that mothers are left out of entirely.

I’m sure this must be commonly true but I hadn’t really been able to express it.  I have more fond memories of my father and do think of my mom as being more critical.  I hope this is not always the case and don’t want my own children to walk away from our home with the same feelings.  Hmmm.  What do you think?  Are mothers destined to thought of in this way?   Luckily it does not damage forever as Margo and Frances stay connected throughout the book.

Key Biscayne; Stiltsville

Another review:

Seaside Book Corner

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Susanna Daniel’s website

Vacation Reading

Groovy Girl and her 9-yr-old cousin

We played on the beach early this morning.  One of the many great things about the Outer Banks beach is it is not crowded!  You don’t have to fight for space to set your chair down or wade through rows of people to get to the water.  I sat in a beach chair while Groovy Girl and her cousin ran in and out of the ocean, hundreds of times, laughing each time.  After chasing the waves back and forth they took to collecting shells and showing me each and every one.  When they were younger we always had to be right there next to them but now that they are 8 and 9 I can sit in the chair and read and still keep and eye on them.  Pure mama joy.  I did romp with them in the waves for a bit but after that my main job was to exclaim every time they brought a new shell to my chair for inspection.  (oh, yes that one is very smooth, striped, pink, etc.)

My husband’s side of the family are very intellectual and love to read.  I did a fair amount of reading on the trip to DC and have been able to keep reading while here.  We visited two bookstores; one in Adams Morgan area of DC and one at Old Dominion University in Norfolk, VA.  I picked up a used book at each of these lovely stores and I hear there is a great indie bookstore here, which we plan to seek out and find in the next few days.

I finished Cutting For Stone (I was almost done with this before we left Chicago) by Abraham Verghese,  Little Klein by Anna Ylvisaker-great little book, Newsgirl by Liza Ketchum  and am more than half way through Before I Fall by Lauren Oliver, which was a used hardcover ($6!)  I found in Adams Morgan!  Yeah, love those kind of finds-it was on my summer reading list already.  I started Summer Affair by Elin Hildebrand but set it aside until I finish Before I Fall.  Every single person (except for the 8/9 year-olds) read this afternoon as a storm whipped up and kept us from playing by the beach.  When not reading we tend to play games together; Guesstures, Scattegories, Password, Mexican Train, etc.

I remember the first time I went on vacation with my soon-to-be-husband’s family years ago…I remember how relaxed it made me; like I belonged. 

What does your family do when they spend time together?

Tomorrow is the longest day of the year and we plan to be up for most of it.  Starting the day with fresh doughnuts from Duck.  Yum!

Beach Baby

This is where we spent Father’s Day for half the day. 
We spotted dolphins and pelicans so far.
It was windy and beautiful.
My father-in-law and his two sons, Brett and Greg
 
Tomorrow I want the sun to be out and the wind to be gone. Please.
I miss my dad but I’ve not focused on that today as it makes me weepy sad.
Celebrate.