Gratitude for us

I’ve been feeling all kinds of thankfulness and not just because tomorrow is Thanksgiving.  I celebrate the coming together of family to dine together over a special meal that I’ve taken weeks if not months to plan and make. You hope it is one free of argument and that all the kids will like what you’ve created.  This year I’m making cauliflower tacos, potato vindaloo, a lentil dish, mashed potatoes with Jaime’s  vegan gravy, cranberries with oranges, naan bread, and Vegan for Everybody vegan pumpkin cheesecake.  This is a mish-mash of Indian flavors and some old standby favorites and it probably will look nothing like most Americans more traditional turkey and stuffing. You do you. This is more us. We all have our own identities and the food we eat is part of that; a mish mash of flavors, personalities, likes, and dislikes, allergies, and food politics. 

I’m glad my son is vegan because he’s in it for all the right reasons; he cares about animals and their rights.  He’s empathetic and is doing his part for the environment. My husband is a meat eater but he takes care of that himself. I am a vegetarian and my daughter is allergic to tomatoes which is a fairly new discovery after her elimination diet this summer. That adds a kink into lentil dishes and soups but after some research I discovered this person’s blog, Delishably, and she has the same allergy and shared ideas about substitutes that will work for my lentil dish. Bravo!

I’m grateful my family pushing me in new directions for I love to cook and cooking the same way or things all the time is not me. I live by the motto “Try new things…whatever they may be”

I’m grateful for a husband who works hard to make our house up-to-date with fresh paint and new looks.

I’m grateful, especially right now, for our continued good health. It’s hard to say this with so many falling ill with Covid, like cancer, it comes in so many different forms.  

I’m grateful for all my people that have kept me sane during this difficult time of lockdowns and crazy politics.  I appreciate the friendship everyday.

I’m grateful for a job I love that is more passion than drudge work. I love sharing the love of books with my students even though some of them do not care for my love of books and enthusiasm.  It’s okay. I love them anyway. 

I finished an extraordinary book this morning, This is how it always is by Laurie Frankel, and I just marveled in her storytelling!  She’s a person worth exploring more about and I plan to recommend this book to my book club. I was thankful that I had the morning to “laze” away reading so I could finish. I look forward to celebrating tomorrow’s Native American Heritage Day because for me it is far better to spend the rest of November celebrating in prayerful meditation the ancestors of our land that came before us. 

 In gratitude to my readers! Thank you. 

Happy Birthday Baby!

(Upside down in Maryland)
(In Virginia)

My youngest child turns 17 years old tomorrow!  I truly can’t believe it. This is her senior year and after that she will fly the coop and I’ll have to find new things to do with my time. I’ve been chasing after her for so many years I won’t know what to do with myself.  I mean I will but it just feels so lonesome to contemplate.

(in Central Park)
She has always been full of positive energy with a quick laugh. She also can be brutally hard on herself especially when it comes to her dancing skills. She loves to be in motion, dancing, yet she pushes herself and still never feels like she gets to where she wants to be. I say let it go and enjoy the beauty that is you. She gets a little tired of my ability to spin everything to the positive saccharine. level. Each and every one of us has our quirks and at some point in our lives it’s best just to play to your strengths and let go of what isn’t working. I wish I could give her a boost of real confidence for her birthday gift so that she would truly believe in her abilities and help her move forward when things are rough. I think it has to do with developing resilience. We could all use a little dose of that right now in our world- that and patience. And those skills take time to develop…

Groovy Girl was a beautiful baby and she is a stunning young woman; I love snuggling with her at any time of the day.  She has always loved baking and creating in the kitchen and now her “concoctions” are delicious Indian dinners that we can devour together. She is thoughtful and insightful, a champion for all kinds of inclusive causes. 

(Look at her beautiful tiny face)

Happy birthday my dear little one!  You are greatly loved and appreciated. 

Rainy days

It is rainy today and this weekend it snowed. Anything is possible weather-wise right now. School is winding down with just a little over a month left.  We had our last dance competition weekend and are now looking forward to recital on May 18th. Dance will be over for another year for Groovy Girl and next year will be her last at this studio. Wow. What a chapter. 

(source)

Meanwhile we celebrated our son’s 24th birthday with vegan pizza at a local pizza place.  He had vegan, we had vegetarian.  I understand how my parents felt when as a 13-yo I gave up meat and harped on them to follow suit. Our son admonishes us for not turning vegan for the planet. I say I gave up straws for the planet and have always lived a life thoughtful of animals but of course he feels we could go that one greater leap. I say the cheese sucks. Seriously vegan cheese is not for me. I’d rather not have cheese. On the upside I always still ask for a piece of his pizza as he is king of picking great toppings.

The next night we had amazing Thai food at Exotic Thai in Davenport, IA. Yes, it can happen; delicious and diverse food flavors here. I had a pumpkin curry that was amazing. I ate the whole bowl and wanted more. My husband had a coconut curry soup that was equally as good; he ate every last drop.  We had a busy two days watching dance and eating good food yet we carved out a few minutes on Saturday night to go to the mall. Groovy Girl is finding her own way to be green and wants to buy recyled/2nd hand clothes, especially jeans so we spent about an hour at Ragstock as she picked through the racks to find a few selections. I’ve always loved second hand shopping so it’s rewarding to see her make this choice on her own.

I bought three pots of herbs today at the grocery store. I’m ready for planting.  It’s going to need to get just a little warmer but for now they look great on my kitchen table right near the window and they smell intoxicating. While it warms up I’ve been busy reading Their eyes were watching God by Zora Neale Hurston for book club and I just started something new recommended by a student (he even gave me his copy) by Taran Matharu called The Novice~high fantasy and I’ve read several chapters tonight right after I made a delicious soup for the family.

International Women's Day

The first International Women’s Day was celebrated on March 19, 1911.
This first event included meetings and organized events and was successful in
countries like Austria, Denmark, Germany, and Switzerland.
The March 19th date was chosen because it commemorated the day that the Prussian King promised to give women the right to vote. He didn’t follow through on his promise and the date was later changed to March 8th in 1913.

In some countries, this is a national holiday and government offices are closed as well as some businesses. It seems that as we continue to push for more equality in this country and around the world that this day would grow in importance. This year the theme is #PressforProgress which combined with the #MeToo and #TimesUp campaigns make it feel like we are getting closer to gender equality.

There are no major events that I know of celebrating this day in my small
area of Iowa so I plan to talk up and celebrate women’s achievements,
set up a book display showcasing strong female leaders and other achievers and celebrate me and other strong role models.




Check and see if your area features any cool
events, International Women’s Day site And read this excellent article from
The Times entitled The New Vanguard that highlights women writers in this century who’ve helped to change and reconstruct our thinking. The first book on the list is

Chimamanda Adichie’s novel Americanah-one of my favorite inspiring reads.



Happy International Women’s Day 2018! I hope this year will truly be a year of spectacular change for humans for as we lift ourselves up men can only become more self-aware.

Post note: Man-what a day to have weird formatting issues.
I had one 1/2 of another blog post disappear and now this one doesn’t want to make correct paragraphs.
Oh, how I wish blogger saved like a google doc.

Groovy Girl turns 14

{G.G. and her brother}

Seriously no way. It just can’t be possible that my baby born 3′ 4 ” is now my height and can wear my shoes if she likes them.

{G.G.and her big sis Kalila}

She is a blessing and a miracle. She is lovely and wonderful. She is also disorganized, somewhat spastic, and slightly irresponsible. Yet she keeps track of her contacts~still a mystery to me. Those are all characteristics of hers that are just part of what makes her who she is. Her college roommate will have to help her find her phone, she will probably be the girl turning cartwheels across the quad, happy that she still wears her Nike Pros underneath her dresses and I know she will find someone out there who loves her for all those quirky attributes.

What I dislike are people who make those qualities a negative for her. She had some amazing teachers in elementary school and one of them in particular clarified to me how some kids are just like that; creative, forgetful, absent-minded yet delightful.  Not a negative. I used to feel like I had to apologize a bit for her ability to stray. Her teacher’s words to me after Groovy Girl had lost a school project was simply one of reassurance and I’ve tried to stick with that method.  She is who she is and I am grateful for her kind smile every day.

Happy 14th birthday Groovy Girl~you are an amazing child/young woman/daughter.

Weekly Recipes 13

My husband celebrated his birthday last week and somewhere before that day I had read a blog post about really doing it up for your kids’ birthdays. Balloons across their doorway, balloons in the cabinets, singing, cupcakes for breakfast.  It was a fun read and inspired to go the extra mile in celebrating his big day.

First a little background on my guy. He’s the artistic director at our local community theatre. He is a talented and creative guy. He is also crazy busy.  He is in the middle of directing Cabaret; a big and serious show. His birthday fell during tech week.  You do not take a day off during tech week. He had rehearsal at 6:30 so we scheduled around it and had dinner plans with the kids for 4:45 approximately.

Because we weren’t celebrating at home I had kinda thought I wouldn’t make any dessert for him until I read the blog post.  After I called a local store to ask about a cake.  Usually I make everything from scratch but my cake idea was for cast and crew and I thought a big sheet cake was in order.  Until I checked the price.  Wwhhhaaaat!  Highway robbery for a stupid cake that has fake plastic-tasting frosting.

I made my own.  And he loved it. And the cast and crew demolished it. He’s not a fake frosting kinda guy anyway.  He isn’t even a chocolate cake kinda guy.  I made this Oatmeal-Raisin Snack Cake for him and it’s a keeper.  I didn’t even get a bite but he came home raving and rolling his eyes back about how wonderful the frosting was-this is a man who does not love sweet.  My heart sang.  From one of my favorite food bloggers…Brown-Eyed Baker.  Click her link or the recipe title above for the recipe.  The recipe was very easy but you do have to wade past all the new ads on her site.

We did have a lovely dinner together. We laughed. The kids had excellent gifts for him. I had a big bouquet of balloons for him.  And tickets to the Blue Ox Music Festival.  He did make it to rehearsal.

It's August! My month to rule like a queen.

My birthday is tomorrow (two days ago now)!  While birthdays don’t hold the same excitement as I’ve aged-it’s still fun to have your own big day

Reflecting back on other birthdays that were full of flair I remember one party that involved our big blue boat, about 9 friends, and our small town yacht club (it did have a swimming pool).  We boated and swam and ate cake.  It remember the joy and the excitement of turning another year older.

I remember another birthday where I felt full of frustration.  The day had been a boring one; no breakfast in bed, friends, or party plans and THEN my mom made me go take a nap.  What!?  Crazy.  I wasn’t a baby or even a toddler anymore.  I wish she’d have thought of some other method of distraction but no, off to my room I was sent.  After a couple of hours I was summoned back down where a surprise party had been arranged.  It was fun and I knew that was why I had been sent to bed so party preparations could be made; it was just so unfair to take a nap on what, for kids, is right next to Christmas in celebrations.

Now I’d pay money to have a good nap on my birthday, to be sent to my room for quiet time.  And luckily on my day I did get about 2 hours to just read in the sunshine on my patio.  I also had breakfast in bed, an hour of fun at our local pool, and a lovely dinner out with teenage boy/college son/making his own way young man, Groovy Girl, and handsome husband. After dinner older brother took Groovy Girl home so we could walk down the street for a cocktail with friends.  It was a beautiful day and I didn’t mind turning another year older because I think this year could be the best year ever.  Really.  Lots to look forward to and many things to accomplish.  All I have to do is do it.  So cheers to a new year to check things off my list.

Weekend Cooking: Who doesn't love cake? A Tangle of Knots by Lisa Graff offers cake.

Groovy Girl recently had a very big birthday.  She turned 12 on the 12th of September.  She’s growing up…I dislike it, I love it-it depends on the day.  She’s taking 7th grade in stride, a few bumps along the way.  For example, she forgot her phone at school, in a classroom.  Couldn’t get a hold of her for about 35 minutes after school.  So frustrating yet we joked about it on our way home. We walked home from school hand in hand and then shared a cupcake when we got home.  Much of life is grand.

Back to the major birthday party.  For two years she’s been awaiting this golden birthday and she’d requested a hotel sleepover party for this illustrious event.  We went hotel shopping in early August to check out their lobbies, their pools, and how they made us feel.  The Hilton Garden Inn won hands down as the pool was warm and they had a lovely outdoor area with twinkling lights and fire pits.  The deal was sealed.  I made two reservations.  The price was pretty reasonable.

I asked her if she wanted cupcakes from our local cupcakery that is so popular.  She said “NO” flat out. “We always make my cake, mama!” she said.  I asked her to look for a recipe.  Weeks went by and then as I was reading an Iowa Children’s Choice possible title A Tangle of Knots by Lisa Graff I found the cake!  It spoke to me because it combined some of her favorite things…chocolate and more chocolate and she loves s’mores! I rushed upstairs to share my discovery and she was like “mm-maybe-” followed by a “maybe” and a little shoulder shrug.  Hmmm.  I stuck with it though and we gave it a try.

Will’s S’more Cake
-a cake that always disappears quickly-

For the cake:
small spoonful of flour, for preparing the cake pans
14-oz package of graham crackers (about 26 crackers)
2 tsp baking powder
1 cup butter (2 sticks) **always use unsalted as it is fresher** at room temperature
2 cups granulated sugar
5 large eggs, at room temperature
2 tsp good vanilla
1 cup milk, at room temperature

For the frosting:
1 cup semi-sweet chocolate chips
3/4 cup butter (1 1/2 sticks) room temperature
1 1/2 cups powdered sugar
1/3 cup sour cream, at room temperature
pinch of salt

For the filling:
1 large cup marshmallow fluff
(I did NOT say this cake was healthy in anyway)

For the topping:
extra graham crackers and/or mini-marshmallows **she opted for studding it with chocolate chips**

1. Preheat oven to 350*F. Lightly grease the bottoms of two 8-in. round cake pans with butter.  Using the cake pans as a template, trace two circles onto wax paper (I used parchment paper) and cut them out, placing once circle inside each pan.  Sprinkle the inside of the pans lightly with flour, and tap the pans to distribute it evenly.

2. Place graham crackers in a blender or food processor, and grind until crushed to a fine powder.  (Alternatively, place the graham crackers in a plastic ziplock bag and crush them with a rolling pin which is exactly what Groovy Girl did as it sounded more fun!)  Measure out 3 cups of the cracker powder into a medium bowl, and mix with the baking powder.  Set aside.  Reserve the remaining graham cracker powder to decorate the top of the cake, if desired.

3. In a large bowl, cream the butter and granulated sugar with an electric mixer, starting on low speed then increasing to medium-high, until light and fluffy, about 3-5 minutes.  Add the eggs one at a time, beating well after each addition. Blend in the vanilla.

4. Reducing the speed on the mixer to low, add about a third of the graham racker mixture to the batter, combining well.  Add about half of the milk and combine.  Then add another third of the graham cracker mixture, the last of the milk, and then the last of the cracker mix, combining well each time.

5. Pour the batter into the two pans, smoothing the surface.  Bake for 35-40 minutes, or until a toothpick comes out clean.  Let the cakes cool completely before frosting.

6. While the cakes are baking, make the frosting; In a double boiler or a heatproof boil fitted into a saucepan of simmering water, carefully melt the chocolate chips over low heat, stirring often.  Remove from heat and allow to cool, about 10-15 minutes.

7. In a large bowl, cream the butter with an electric mixer fitted with clean beaters on medium speed until fluffy, about 2-3 minutes.  Reducing the speed on the mixer to low, gradually add the powdered sugar and beat until smooth, another 2-3 minutes.  Add the cooled chocolate, sour cream, and pinch of salt, and beat to combine.

8.  When the cakes are completely cooled, place one cake layer on a plate and spread marshmallow fluff on top.  If fluff is difficult to spread, microwave it in a glass bowl first for 10-20 seconds and stir.)  Place the second cake layer on top and frost the whole cake with the chocolate frosting.  Decorate with graham cracker crumbs or mini marshmallows.   (44-46)

Almost everyone at the party loved the cake, the flavor was great and it was nice and dense.  I would make this one again with some minor adjustments.  We brought part of the cake home and we’ve all been sneaking bites here and there and we’ve also shared a few pieces Grandpa Roger style; in a bowl with some milk.  The best. Thanks Dad.  Miss you.

A Tangle of Knots by Lisa Graff has some memorable moments but the plot was a bit scattered for me. The cakes and Cady’s story were the very best part though and I wanted Cady to find a good permanent home with Miss Mallory.  Cady has a knack for baking and it was fun to read about how she created cakes for those around her.  Thank you Ms. Graff for giving us a wonderful birthday recipe!

Birthday Greetings

My birthday is just around the corner tomorrow! Yikes. Did you shop for me yet? If not, I’ve put together a quick list of possible suggestions in case one of you is still searching for that special something.

This Sony music player would be really great so I can listen to my playlist while I work around the house.  I was just at my friend Barb’s house and she had one right there in the center of the house and made it so easy to listen to good music all the time.

I also adore these beautiful dresses at eShakti.  This one in particular caught my eye. This would be a wonderful dress for back-to-school.

My list wouldn’t be complete without a few books:

1. The Santa Monica Farmer’s Market Cookbook by Amalia Saltsman (2007)

2. Everyday Thai Cooking by Katie Chin (2013)

I just finished Lament by Maggie Steifvater and I’m interested in Ballad, the companion novel to Lament which features James, Dierdre’s best friend.
I also really need to bump up my yoga gear.  I wear the same outfit almost everyday and I’d like something new to slip on.  This tank from R.E. I.  would get me up and going.
Also this 3/4 zip shirt will keep me warm in the mornings as I walk or bike to school this year.
That’s probably enough suggestions.  I don’t need much, really.  My husband already gave me a nice bottle of red wine.  Life is good.  

Breakfast or brunch, whichever.

{Ree’s photo, not mine)

My husband would love it if I cooked like Ree Drummond most of the time. He’s a fried chicken, grits, biscuits and gravy kinda guy.  I made him a homemade plateful using a recipe for biscuits and gravy I found on her website.  There were delicious.  I’m more of a vegetarian, salad, healthy-type eater so we balance each other out.  I’ve learned to appreciate something as hearty as this dish as long as it’s like eaten not more than once a year and made with high quality, local sausage like Beeler’s.

Last night we secretly made him a strawberry-rhubarb pie.  It is hiding in the cupboard waiting for tomorrow night.  I used frozen rhubarb from last summer’s crop and some berries my mom brought me the other day.  I don’t know where she got the berries and I’m not asking as they were big (and definitely NOT local) but perfect for this pie.  It’s his favorite.  I used to be afraid of making pies all because of sticky crusts.  My mother-in-law shared her recipe with me and I finally got the hang of making it.  Last night Groovy Girl and I worked happily together interlacing the pie crust to make a lattice top.

The pie was quite juicy I think because of the frozen rhubarb.  It has settled not and should be perfect for serving tomorrow night.  I always bake it on top of a cookie sheet which saved my oven this time as it leaked right up over the top.  

Here is the pie crust recipe so you to can feel pie-successful:

Phyllis’ Perfect Pie Crust


For a double crust pie:


2 cups flour
1 cup Crisco (today I used butter as I was out of Crisco)
1/4 tsp salt
1/2 tsp baking powder
1/2 cup cold water


Mix together dry ingredients, cut in Crisco with a pastry blender.  Pour in cold water and mix only enough to stick together.  Roll out one-half of the dough at a time for a double crust pie.  You can sprinkle top with sugar or cinnamon/sugar mixture.

Toss in your fruit of choice and bake.  The lattice top in the photo above does not look as good as we’ve done before but he is not going to care.  He is going to be delighted that I’m still willing to craft a pie for him! Why all this catering to the husband?  His birthday is tomorrow!

This post is linked to Beth Fish Reads Weekend Cooking meme.  Click on her link to find many other food-related posts.  Happy weekend.