War is not the answer; Ellen Feldman's Next to Love

Next to Love; A Novel 
2011
289 pages

I read 2 adult fiction books in October-rare for me. Both were outstanding!   Next to Love focuses on three young women, all childhood friends, and the men in their lives during World War II and after.   Each woman’s story captivated me.  Grace, Babe, and Millie experience the beginning of the war through the departure of the men they love and the end of the war with what they are left with and, as a reader, we are privvy to what direction their lives take, and how they get on with the business of living.

Grace, already married with a daughter, is mad at her husband, Charlie:

Talk to me, she wants to throw open the window and shout.  Tell me.  Are you afraid?  Are you secretly thrilled, a little boy with a stick playing at being a soldier, a man going off on a great adventure, leaving us behind, breaking my heart?  No, that isn’t fair.  He is not enjoying this either. (27)

Babe and Claude are a mismatched pair who meet accidentally at the Carnegie library .  Claude checks out books for her in an act of  kindness, demonstrating his rebellious nature to her early on:

Three years later, they began going together.  By then he was teaching at the high school, and she was selling ribbons at Diamond’s.  His mother, sensing a rebellious nature as well as an inferior bloodline, was brokenhearted; his father merely disapproved.  The town was full of nice girls from good families.  Why did  their son have to get mixed up with one whose father worked in the hat factory and who had to work herself? (20)

Millie and Pete are newlyweds, adjusting to life, when he enlists. His last night in town they’ve had cocktails and dinner with their friends all at Grace and Charlie’s home.  Later, Pete sleeps while Millie lies awake worrying.

She looks at the clock.  It is four-thirty.  She gets out of bed and goes down the hall to the bathroom.  By the time she comes back, he is awake.  And she is bathed and dressed and wearing a big perfectly lipsticked smile. Nobody likes a gloomy Gertie. (37)

Millie, Babe, and Grace have very different journeys to travel throughout the story yet each leads to the same conclusion-war is a miserable way to solve conflict.  Feldman’s story takes the reader deep into how WWII affected the lives of these women but on a greater whole how men and women were torn apart.  Marriages and families were destroyed. The children of soldiers were forever changed because their father came back and struggled or didn’t come back at all.  I don’t know if the author is a peace activist but she makes the point very clear:  War is not the answer.

Think of the soldiers of today and what they’ve seen and what they’ve been ordered to do in the name of freedom.  Fighting against any enemy causes irreparable damage to a person’s psyche, making it extremely traumatic to re-enter civilian life.  I hope many read this book and take it’s message to heart.  It is simply an excellent historical fiction.  I plan to read more by Ellen Feldman. -click to check out her website. 

Other reviews:
Charlotte’s Web of Books
Diane at Bookchickdi
Alyce from At Home with Books

Weekend Cooking; Road Trip to peace.

Yesterday I had melted Brie, fresh bread and apple slices. 
 There was chaos getting to that peaceful spot though.

Groovy Girl began the day sad causing waves of tears and snappy answers from her.  It took us a bit to convince her she could take charge of her own mood.  She did and we went off to skating a bit late but still there.  After her skating lesson, Husband and I had a planned road trip with friends and I was excited to go.  A few days earlier husband found out about a peace walk and wanted to participate.  Of course, the timing of the event squeezed it right in between skating and our intended road trip, which makes handsome husband think “oh, great we can make it!”  Ugh.  Love peace, Hate rushing.

I often walk laps around the arena while Groovy skates and I needed a shower and I had less than 30 minutes to get ready for the walk and the road trip.  Could I have planned more the night before?  Yes.  Did I? No.  In my rush I spent 3-4 precious minutes trying to get new milk from Hansen’s into the refrigerator cramming it between various water bottles.  I should have taken water bottles out but instead somehow managed to spill the small pitcher of margaritas I’d made the night before.  I cried as the mason jar spilled it’s contents all over the kitchen rug. Now I had to stop and wipe it all up.  What a waste.  It wasn’t the loss of the drink (well a little bit) but I dislike rushing and the affects of rushing.  I did make it up to take my shower and even though I was sad about spilled “milk” I knew it wasn’t the cause but I still managed to have another mini-meltdown as I was driving back down the highway previously traveled for skating.

Meltdown’s are rarely about what started it and I knew I was nervous about leaving my children for the day and for my husband cramming something more into our day.  I sobbed to my handsome and understanding husband-he said “Ill listen as we go…”  He did listen yet my feelings still hadn’t resolved as we arrived at the gathering spot.  While praying for a peace I realized these things:

1. My children are old enough to be on their own together but it was my first time leaving them for the day without my mom or someone else to consult.  They would have to take care of chores, and lunch and dinner on their own.  They survived.

2. My husband and I have walked, prayed, rallied for peace from Arkansas, D.C. and Iowa.  Of course he would want to walk this walk.  The walks purpose is to highlight a Dr. King park we hope to have built in our church neighborhood.

Even though my tears and my brain fought it; the walk healed me and reminded me of what I know to be true.  My life is good and we need more peace in our communities both locally and worldly.  I left my grumpy bugs behind.

Our road trip with friends to the Amana Colonies was fantastic.  We went to Fireside Winery for a tasting,  shopped, (I bought pecan maple syrup at the General Store) and root beer here and enjoyed the company of our friends and the fantastic autumnal weather.  At both winery and Millstream we were able to sit on the patio with just sweaters.  We had a delicious family-style dinner at The Ronneburg Restaurant, which included sides of sauerkraut, German potato salad, beets, coleslaw and dark rye bread. My grandmother would have loved it!  The meal was good but the Brie on the patio was my favorite part of the day.  Sunshine, a light white wine and laughter made me forgot all about my meltdown.

The margarita recipe:

12 oz can frozen limeade
12 ounces of tequila
12 ounces of water
8 ounces of triple sec (2/3 can)
1 can domestic beer
Ice and Limes as desired


Use the frozen limeade can to measure ingredients.  Mix well in a gallon pitcher.  If you would like to blend them; don’t add the water and blend.  Either way serve in a small glass, with limes and salt.  Perfect.

Fall is not margarita weather here but our school published a new cookbook (our second one) and my school friend, Stephanie, had this brag-worthy mix.  We toasted together on Friday night while we watched the Cardinals win the World Series. Yeah!!!

This crazy long post is linked to Weekend Cooking hosted by Beth Fish Reads.

Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr

“I have a dream that my four little children will one day live in a nation where they will not be judged by the color of their skin, but by the content of their character.”

“The ultimate measure of a man is not where he stands in moments of comfort and convenience, but where he stands at times of challenge and controversy. “

“Human progress is neither automatic nor inevitable… Every step toward the goal of justice requires sacrifice, suffering, and struggle; the tireless exertions and passionate concern of dedicated individuals. “

“A nation that continues year after year to spend more money on military defense than on programs of social uplift is approaching spiritual death.”

“Nonviolence is the answer to the crucial political and moral questions of our time: the need for man to overcome oppression and violence without resorting to oppression and violence. Man must evolve for all human conflict a method which rejects revenge, aggression and retaliation. The foundation of such a method is love.”

“[I]t is necessary to understand that Black Power is a cry of disappointment. The Black Power slogan did not spring full grown from the head of some philosophical Zeus. It was born from the wounds of despair and disappointment. It is a cry of daily hurt and persistent pain.”

“Like an unchecked cancer, hate corrodes the personality and eats away its vital unity. Hate destroys a man’s sense of values and his objectivity. It causes him to describe the beautiful as ugly and the ugly as beautiful, and to confuse the true with the false and the false with the true.”

“Injustice anywhere is a threat to justice everywhere.”

Crazy to Calm-Bedtime Reading 101

     Groovy Girl and I had a few picture books to read for story time and she likes to put them in order of how we are going to read them.  No random just-pick-fro- the-pile for her-she puts them in calming order-the most vibrant first and the most soothing last, perfect to then fall asleep.  She’s makes me smile!  Two nights ago this was her order:

1. Paulie Pastrami Achieves World Peace by James Proimos.  It has an exciting cover, bold words and was a lot of fun to read.  Groovy Girl now has her very own Goodreads acct. and she dictated in her review that she loved this one so much she read it aloud to everyone in her family.   True enough, I heard her beg her dad if she could read it to him and he relented…it was on Sunday during a football game and she stood right in front of him and read the whole thing.  Good for her!  It is a very cute book with a good message that kids will relate to.

2. Sugar Plum Ballerinas; Toeshoe Trouble by Whoopi Goldberg.  We enjoyed the first one in this series and like this one even more as we get to know the characters.  Brenda’s cousin comes to stay and the cousin, who has money and is a bit snobbish about it, causes Brenda to make a terrible choice.  Lots of uh-oh moments in this one.  This series has a lot to say about friendship. We read two chapters and then moved on to my daughter’s third reading choice:

3. Forever Friends by Carin Berger.  Calm, Japanese-style illustration on cover, Groovy Girl said this makes drifting off to sleep so much easier.  The inside pictures are beautiful, all natural, subdued colors, gracious cattails highlighted by one bird and one rabbit playing together.  I love how perfectly she put these in order-she is not organized about all things (her room) but about bedtime book reading she’s got her own cool method!

Good Night, Sleep Tight.

Found this great interview
with Whoopi about Sugur Plum Ballerinas; Toe Shoe Trouble.

Habibi

by Naomi Shihab Nye
1997
259 pages

     Read this book…It’s crazy when a gem like this has escaped my attention.  This is a book that I will recommend to many students, parents and teachers this year.   Really everyone should read it because it says so much about conflict, resolution, peace and religion-all hot button topics and dealt with so well by Ms.. Nye.

Indiebound Synopsis:

The day after Liyana got her first real kiss, her life changed forever. Not because of the kiss, but because it was the day her father announced that the family was moving from St. Louis all the way to Palestine. Though her father grew up there, Liyana knows very little about her family’s Arab heritage. Her grandmother and the rest of her relatives who live in the West Bank are strangers, and speak a language she can’t understand. It isn’t until she meets Omer that her homesickness fades. But Omer is Jewish, and their friendship is silently forbidden in this land. How can they make their families understand? And how can Liyana ever learn to call this place home?

My thoughts:

     Arrrrgggghhhh!!  *%%$##@!!  Not very peaceful like at all but I had several well-thought out paragraphs written out with 4 interesting quotes highlighting Naomi Shihab Nye’s poetic writing and it all disappeared when I pushed “publish post.” Just disappeared-everything that I’d written in the last hour. Arrrgghhh, again!!
      I have to prepare a dish for a women’s party I’m going to tonight and clean my step-daughter’s room for her evening arrival so I Don’t Have Time to Go Back and Rewrite it all!  I leave you with this…many should read this book about an area of the world that is still in crisis.  Naomi Shihab Nye is obviously very talented and I plan to purchase this book for my school library and I plan to bring it to the  attention of my 5th grade book club.  It will make for great discussion.  Now I feel a little like crying.  Has a  post ever disappeared for you??  I guess the greater question is “where did my words just go, floating out there in cyberspace…???” 


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A little Sunday Peace

At church this morning we sang a beautiful song that spoke to me and I’m compelled to share it out:

The Peace of the Earth (Guatemalan traditional-translation)

The peace of the earth be with you, the peace of the heavens too;
The peace of the rivers be with you, the peace of the oceans too.
Deep peace falling over you.

The peace of the earth be with you, the peace of the heavens too;
The peace of the rivers be with you, the peace of tthe oceans too.
God’s peace growing in you.

We chanted this together as a congregation-a capella and it sounded amazing!
While snooping around the net, trying to locate a version of the song,  I discovered this cool
organic farm blog, Peace of the Earth Farm.  I love the gorgeous vegetable photos.

So far my weekend has been great, with lots of reading.  I finished Restoring Harmony,  Joelle Anthony’s new book.  For a dystopia novel it was filled with great hope.  I still have reviews to write about Fablehaven (Brandon Mull) and my day in the presence of the Dalai Lama!  Right now though I need to go help my husband paint a portion of our house.  Yeah-sounds like fun, in 90 degree weather! What fabulous things are you reading or taking care of today?

His Holiness, the Dalai Lama

Today this advocate for peace is speaking close to home and
my husband and I are biking over this morning to hear him speak. 
This  morning he will be part of a panel on violence in the school
systems and this afternoon he will give the keynote address.
Read about it in my hometown newspaper.
Check back later for my experience!!
Have a blissful day!!

Love is the Higher Law by David Levithan (2009)

Told in three voices, Claire, Jasper and Peter, try to explain the events right after September 11, 2001.  All three are teenagers living in New York City,attempting to grasp the transformation that undertakes their city. Claire is the first one to speak, taking us quickly through the first plane crash and the second.  She rushes from her class to find her younger brother, Sammy and stays there, waiting for her mom to come, praying for her mom to arrive, willing her mom not to be dead.  In Jasper’s first chapter he sleeps through the entire event, then can’t stop watching it on television, emotionless.  Peter is outside Tower Records, listening to music and has to walk up to Washington Square Park to see the first hole in the tower. 

This story is so emotionally-told and I love the character’s David Levithan has created to carry out his thoughts.  It’s deep, sad, yet ever hopeful.  Claire struggles on her own and takes walks at night, in her city trying to find answers.  Peter and Jasper struggle through their first date, and… I have to stop talking about it because you have to read it and it should be read fresh.  I am so happy to have this horrific event memorialized because it shouldn’t leave our minds.  Levithan does a great job of presenting those arguments over 9/11, which divided the country.  The overabundance of flags, and  Bush’s decision to go to war in Iraq, are both issues Claire struggles with and she marches against the war.  I related heavily with Claire’s feelings and think this should be required high school reading. 

This is the first book I’ve ever read that made me want to make a soundtrack to remember it by.  Before I take it back to the library I’m going to make a list of the songs Levithan uses and make a playlist.  David Levithan’s website-click here.
This book is a rare gem for all.  Click there for  Rainbow List review.

Highly Recommended-YA Fiction
5/5 peaceful stars
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I love what I do…

Ya know, celebrities are always saying “I can’t believe they pay me so much to do what I love…”

For me, it is more like I can’t believe they pay me so little to do what I love!! As a public school teacher/librarian we really don’t make enough. I plan on the weekends for my classes during the week. I plan all summer for the upcoming year. The rewards are plentiful though. Some of the time I get to sit in a big comfy chair that used to be my Grandmother’s and read to young children. I just started Because of Winn-Dixie by Kate DiCamillo (love her) with three third-grade classes. I just finished a Kevin Henkes unit with 1st and 2nd grade and an Eric Carle unit with my kindergarten classes. Reading, what a great way to get through the day! Lilly would say “Wow”.

Things I love…


Okay, it is not environmentally-friendly but I love taking a bath…a bubbly bath w/ patchouli bubble bath! i know all the statistics about how taking a shower uses less water but there is very little comfort in water drizzling over you. Something about a hot bath soothes all that is wrong in the world and tonight after a very hectic day I had to have one. It is amazing and I usually am able to read a few chapters this way until I’m all shriveled like a prune.