This is why I read; Stiltsville by Susanna Daniel

Stiltsville
2010
306 pages

This book spoke to me as a woman who loves being part of a family. Stiltsville refers to a community off the coast of Florida with small cottages built on stilts in the surrounding water.  It tells the story of Frances who as a young woman finds her true love during a chance meeting at his family’s stiltsville cabin.  It happens like that in just a moment, in an odd location, and in a blink of an eye you meet the person you will spend the rest of your life, for better or worse.  Through their courtship, marriage and the birth of their daughter, Margo, you see what family and friends brings to your life.  I laughed and cried at several memorable  moments that had to do with Margo’s adolescences and as Frances and Dennis struggle with the confines of marriage.

Margo is mature physically for a fourth grade student and at a school conference her teacher suggests to Frances and her husband, Dennis, that Margo might feel more comfortable skipping fifth grade and jumping right to sixth. Her parents go along with this idea and Margo finds herself in the midst of sixth grade serious drama, teasing and bullying.  She is invited to a popular girl’s sleepover where she leaves half way through the party because the girls have set her up in a most embarrassing way (mooning a group of boys) and laughing at her afterwards.  The incident was well-written and made me feel for poor Margo and her parents as they try to figure out how to help her through this new year.

I found this book filled with poignant moments like this that mirror my own life in some way.  I worry about my youngest daughter who is innocent and lacks the ability to see through the mean girls in her own fourth grade class.  I also loved the college Margo as she ventures forth to find her own path leaving her parents to explore their empty nest, which just leaves room for more worrying.  I loved the story of Stiltsville, Frances and Dennis, his parents and his sister, Bette, their set of friends, and Margo all make for a memorable story; one that I keep thinking about many days after finishing.

My handsome husband competed in his 11th marathon this past weekend and I was there to cheer him on.  I read and finished this book while I waited for him at various stops along the race route.  It was cold outside and I openly cried as I finished the last two chapters.

A quote:

This time she cried almost without sound.  We’d made a mistake in pushing her ahead-of this I was certain.  I’d let pride influence me.  Shamefully, though, I felt a little grateful for the mistake, because my daughter needed me, and I knew she wouldn’t need me in the same way for much longer.  Still , I couldn’t shake the image o Margo sitting in Mrs. Madansky’s class, raising her hand again and again.  (134)

There is a moment in the book where Dennis and Frances are talking about Margo and Peter, Margo’s new husband and Frances realizes that anything Dennis says to Margo seems to be understood but if Frances brings delicate subjects up somehow it is seen as her being critical of her daughter.  As I reader I noticed this throughout their relationship and it definitely reflects experiences my husband and I have had with our own daughters.  Somehow fathers have leeway with what they can express to their daughters that mothers are left out of entirely.

I’m sure this must be commonly true but I hadn’t really been able to express it.  I have more fond memories of my father and do think of my mom as being more critical.  I hope this is not always the case and don’t want my own children to walk away from our home with the same feelings.  Hmmm.  What do you think?  Are mothers destined to thought of in this way?   Luckily it does not damage forever as Margo and Frances stay connected throughout the book.

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Another review:

Seaside Book Corner

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Susanna Daniel’s website

Martin's BIG Words by Doreen Rappaport

   Oh, how we still need the optimistic and hopeful words of Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr.  Obvious still today when you read the papers and listen to true current events. While we’ve achieved some of Dr. King’s goals of peace and equality, we haven’t made it to the mountain top. People are still killed because of what they believe, hate runs through many and equality has not shown up on everyone’s doorstep. Today has its own hot button issues. No longer are we protesting segregation based on skin color but we do protest the hatred that is still oh, so prevalent.  I love Doreen Rappaport and Bryan Collier’s book, Martin’s Big Words. I read it today to all of my classes and we had great discussion about it.  With two classes we were able to compare the Civil Rights struggle to more current events.  The tragedy in Tuscon came quickly to mind.

In his own words: 

“Hate cannot drive out hate. Only love can do that.”
“Sooner or later, all the people of the world will have to discover a way to live together.”
“Love is the key to the problems of the world.”

See how each of them is such a universal truth.  Wouldn’t it be great to live in a world where, even if you didn’t love what someone else was talking about, that you just let it go.  Where you might just say “I just don’t feel that way.”   And if you are filled with hatred about someone you can’t go to a gun show and buy a weapon and wake up one day and decide today is the day. 

The Civil Rights struggle of today is to give same-sex couples the right to be married, to share benefits, rights guaranteed in the constitution.  I understand the fear in this issue but just like seperate is not equal, equal is not equal until all adult Americans can marry and love who they choose.  Who will stand up for their civil rights?

I know I am a dreamer and am fully aware that hate and evil will always be with us-I just wish we could get to a higher level of dealing with hatred but after watching a Dr. King video on You Tube with students I noticed below how truly reprehensible the comments were…and they were only made yesterday, not 25 years ago.

One child at a time is what my mind tells me…
I read the book and talked about how I wanted them to wake up on Saturday, Jan. 15 and celebrate Dr. King’s birthday and to do the same on Monday-I really tried hard to get them to understand that it was not just a free day off.  Kids are receptive and took my message and maybe, just maybe they will spread that love homeward. 

Rappaport’s book is a triple award-winner and beyond!!

For more information:

The King Center
Doreen Rappaport’s website.
Bryan Collier’s website.

Peace,